I was almost afraid to write this post. Even my pastor complains of the backlash he gets from such topics, how much more, little me. Since I can hide behind my computer, let me be obedient. Perharps, God has 1 person in mind for this, and we all know he would move the earth to save 1 soul.
4 years ago, I was the only female doctor in a very busy hospital. I longed for company, but there was no time for social outings. The ladies I met were either not close to my age, or uncomfortable with my profession (I think doctors can come across as intimidating without meaning to). One day, a pretty, slim, lady came in. We hit it off immediately. She was 1 year younger than I was, a Christian, and a bank staff. I was so excited, I didn’t even ask her what was wrong. We were chatting away like we had known each other forever. When the nurse came to complain that we were slowing things down, I asked her what she came for, hoping it was malaria. Already, I had her phone number, and we had planned to hang out. Yipee!
“Emmm, I feel I might be pregnant”, she announced.
I was floored! “Did you miss your period? Maybe it’s just delayed?”
“Maybe, but, it’s very regular, and I’m really concerned”
“Let’s do a test first” I filled the form and sent her to the laboratory, praying like mad that she was not pregnant.
My prayers were not answered. She returned with a positive pregnancy test, and asked for an abortion, as I had feared.
“Who is the father? Is he not of marriageable age?”
“He is not someone I can marry, though I love him”
“Can’t you keep the baby, take care of him, or givehim up for adoption?”
“My parents will kill me!”
“You are independent, you have a good job, and you’re living on your own. If it comes to that, you can move in with me, and I’ll help you take care of the baby”, I offered in desperation.
“Are you going to tell the father that you are pregnant? ”
“No, I don’t think I will. He is still in school, he can’t take care of me, not to talk of a baby. I was willing to wait for him, but
marrying him now is out of the question”, she stated.
“Let me ask, why were you sleeping with him?”
“I didn’t plan to. It started from kissing, to fondling; then, one day, we had sex. I felt so guilty, as I had promised God I would
wait till my wedding night. Though I was not a virgin, from the day I gave my life to Christ, I have tried to stay away from men. Even before that, it’s not like I had been with men”
She was in tears, so I locked the door, and held her till she was calm. It was obvious she would get rid of the baby somehow, so I
advised her to choose a doctor, not a quack, and to ensure she did scans afterward and took medication to prevent complications. She called me later to tell me how it went. We stayed in touch for a while, but never became the pals I had hoped. (Sweetie call me if you’re reading this, it’s still the same number) .
In all humility, and compassion, I write this to my fellow christians out there, male and female. The law of God is for our protection,
not to keep honey out of our mouths. If you’re single and in a relationship, make it open. Get an accountability partner, someone who monitors your dates and so on. Get older mentors. Do not plan dates in hidden corners and dark places. Keep your hands to yourselves.
Also keep your minds free of fantasy (that includes porn, romantic novels and movies). Make sure you arrange for her to sleep in a female friend’s house if she comes visiting, plan your dates, and put measures in place to prevent physical intimacy.
Are you married, get rid of old prospects. Those former girlfriends and boyfriends, cut them off. Discourage your secretary from
dressing provocatively, sack or transfer her if she comes on to you. Don’t flirt with her and think it’s harmless. She might get
pregnant if you fall into her trap, give you a disease (imagine your wife’s surprise to be diagnosed in hospital), or record your
affair on video to blackmail you.
Mr. Church deacon, how will you explain to the pastor that it only happened once?
Jesus said,”Broad is the way that leads to destruction” A lot of christians are sexually active, believing God will protect them cause
they are ‘special’. My sister, you had better get on the pill, carry condoms in your purse, and treat yourself for STDs like others do. My brother, be ready for the possible consequences of your actions.
So write to me if you are unclear how a Christian can live without doing what everyone is doing. My email is firstname.lastname@example.org. I
will treat it confidentially and not publish your letter if you want. I hope you choose the Narrow way, for it leads to life, and more abundant life. Besides, I need you healthy to keep reading my posts. Hugs!