Esau’s Pottage

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When I was still single, I had this patient who was middle-aged; a politician with a lot of cash to throw around. The reason he got my number(which I usually withheld) was that I referred him to an ENT specialist and he requested to be able to call me to speak to him if need be. Subsequently, he kept in touch, calling occasionally just to say hello and so on. The staff of course loved him cause he was a big tipper. Whenever his posh car with the government license plate  rolled in, even those who should have closed for the day would hang on, hoping for a “blessing”.

One day, he called me in the afternoon.

“Good evening, sir”, I greeted. (Note he had a leadership position in church that came with a title).

“My doctor! How na?”

“Fine sir.”

“I am eating **** in **** restaurant. Would you like to join me? Let me send my car for you.”

Now picture me, fantasizing about myself being chauffeured in that posh car with good air conditioning, insulated from the harsh Niger Delta sun, arriving said restaurant like a ‘queen’, being served all sorts of delicacies, where I proceed to eat myself to stupor. The smell of hospital antiseptic jars me back to my senses.

“No, thank you sir. I have had lunch.” (Aunty long-throat whispers in my head ‘Liar! You have not!” but I ignore her voice.)

“Are you sure? They have**** and ***. Have you tasted****?”

(By this time I am shaking my head like MFM prayer warriors muttering in tongues to bind the devil)

“No, thanks again. Have a good meal. I have to see a patient. (Another lie!). Bye now.”

He never asked again even though he called me for many other reasons through the years. A few years back, I was married and living in Lagos at this time, he called me out of the blues. I greeted him heartily.

“Doc, I don’t know how to tell you this. I need a favour.”


“Well…it’s just that…I wish you were in town I would have come to see you to ask for advice.”

I wonder why he is stuttering. What could be making him so nervous?

“Why not tell me what the problem is; I could be able to help even though I am far away.”

“Is it not all these small small girls? They don’t know how to do the right thing.”

“Small girl? Is your daughter ill?

“No, not my daughter. It’s one small friend I have…(Big shot actually sounds sheepish). She said she did not see her period.”

I am tempted to sound obtuse and ask him to go to her house, take permission from her mother and help her find it but “Not today Satan! Stay professional Dr. N!)

“How old is she?”


“Haba! That is too young. An older girl might have known to use protection. Why didn’t you use protection?”

I can feel him squirming over the phone…even MTN can feel it. His money, cars, connections cannot protect him from the wrath of an Igbo woman.

“I used condom. She said…I don’t even know what she said…”

“Are you sure she is pregnant? Have you done a test?”

“She showed me the pregnancy test she did. It was positive. Doc, how do we flush it out? Is there any friend you have who can do it for me?”

“You know I don’t do such things!” I scolded.

He winced. “I know but maybe your friends?”

“I don’t have friends who do abortions. You know it is illegal. Why not keep the baby?”

“Ha! You know my status. I am an *** in church and she is a small girl.”

I thought for a while. There were 2 possibilities.

  1. She was pretending to be pregnant to con him out of money
  2. She was actually pregnant and if I didn’t intervene he would take her to a quack and she would end up with a septic abortion or even worse die.

“Go to the hospital, call one of the doctors aside and tell him you need to ask him something privately. If he is willing to get involved, tell him your predicament and he will make sure it is done right. But first, he should do another test to confirm she is actually pregnant. If you insist on going ahead, ensure it is done under the strictest of sanitary conditions, and keep an eye on her afterwards to prevent any complications.”

“Okay, doc. Thank you.”

“Sir…you need to choose your girlfriends carefully. 19 years is too young!”

He mumbles something unintelligible.

“And you need to use protection. Carry a condom around. You will protect yourself from scandal and protect Madam from catching something. These girls are not loyal.” I was speaking fast because I knew he had had an earful and would soon end the call.

“Thank you”


I never heard from him again.

Now the moral of the story… Esau was so hungry that he sold his birthright for Jacob’s pottage. If I had gone out with this man, even if I didn’t have sex with him, I would not have the temerity to call him out.

We are in this world as a light to expose the deeds of darkness. Make your standards evident once people meet you and they will leave you alone.

There are men who cannot call out their friends who are beating their wives just because they are indebted to them. Stop borrowing money you cannot repay to impress people who do not care about you.

There are ladies who paid people to write their exams, now they can’t raise their heads when people who know you were an arts student wonder how you ended up an Engineer.

Stop laughing at crude jokes in order to be politically correct. Even if you are not bold enough to speak against things, stand up and walk out. Psalm 1 talks about how blessed is the one who does not sit in the seat of scorners and mockers. You believe…who knows?

Making your stand known also protects you from undue pressure. I remember my husband telling me how a colleague at work was about to invite him to hang out with him in a club when another colleague interrupted and said “Leave him O! He doesn’t drink or hang out.” One day when the ribbing got too much, I told him to accept their invitation if he felt like it. He was such a bore at their outing cause while they were getting wasted he was worrying about the work he brought home and wishing he had his laptop. Suffice it to say they never invited him out  again.

You have the power.


Cheers, Dr.N



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24 thoughts on “Esau’s Pottage

    smilinggurl said:
    June 14, 2017 at 6:04 pm

    Welcome back Dr N!

    exceptionalstar said:
    June 14, 2017 at 6:18 pm

    Welcome back Doc!

    Curious said:
    June 14, 2017 at 6:39 pm

    Great story doctor N! But question…If we are to be the light to others, should you really have recommended to him where and how to get an abortion? If as Christians, we believe this is murder, should we be advising people how to commit murder “antiseptically”? Honest question

      drnsmusings responded:
      June 14, 2017 at 9:45 pm

      I expected that question
      Well…I had asked him to keep d baby but he refused
      He would have got d abortion whether or not I helped
      My next concern was to save d girl’s life. Her chances of survival would be higher if it is done by a doctor than by a chemist or something in a dark corner.
      I may be a Christian but I also have to cut my losses sometimes. This guy wanted to protect his “church” reputation. He was not willing to go to hospital that is why he called me who was living 10 hours away

    yegiblog said:
    June 15, 2017 at 10:44 am

    Thank you. God will continue to bless you Dr N. you know how to hit the nail on the head

    exceptionalstar said:
    June 15, 2017 at 3:58 pm

    Great message ma, it’s heart warming to have you back.

    DamiLoves said:
    June 16, 2017 at 9:39 am

    Great message! It is so important to stand by our standards and principles even when we are tested. Welcome back Dr N

    Eyak said:
    June 16, 2017 at 6:42 pm

    I missed you Dr N, welcome back. The man will most probably move on to the next naive young girl and keep on catching fun.

    Charles said:
    June 18, 2017 at 12:18 pm

    Standing, Being and waiting.
    Words we have found ways to compromise these age of gray areas and mixtures of all sorts.
    We need the unyielding stance of a watchman, the precision of a laser light and the distinction between black and white to “be” in this age and time and your story up here is a reminder of all of that.
    Thank you!

      drnsmusings responded:
      June 18, 2017 at 2:46 pm

      My dictionary is gonna have to come out for this one
      And Congrats on u know what!!!

    brytnex said:
    June 19, 2017 at 10:24 am

    Welcome back Doc!
    A wonderful piece. Hoping to start reading a series from you!

    Blessedheart said:
    June 19, 2017 at 2:46 pm

    Welcome back, Dr N. I sent you an email, please respond when you have time. God bless the little one

    Anonymous Chick said:
    June 19, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    Dancing at seeing two posts from you already! Yippie!

    19 years old? Kai! These men sha and the girls too…….

    I think you did the right thing by advising him on what to do as he would have done it either way.

    Welcome back again Dr N!

    Ijay said:
    July 2, 2017 at 7:38 pm

    Thanks Dr. N
    It’s really nice having you back..
    God bless you

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