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Esau’s Pottage

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When I was still single, I had this patient who was middle-aged; a politician with a lot of cash to throw around. The reason he got my number(which I usually withheld) was that I referred him to an ENT specialist and he requested to be able to call me to speak to him if need be. Subsequently, he kept in touch, calling occasionally just to say hello and so on. The staff of course loved him cause he was a big tipper. Whenever his posh car with the government license plate  rolled in, even those who should have closed for the day would hang on, hoping for a “blessing”.

One day, he called me in the afternoon.

“Good evening, sir”, I greeted. (Note he had a leadership position in church that came with a title).

“My doctor! How na?”

“Fine sir.”

“I am eating **** in **** restaurant. Would you like to join me? Let me send my car for you.”

Now picture me, fantasizing about myself being chauffeured in that posh car with good air conditioning, insulated from the harsh Niger Delta sun, arriving said restaurant like a ‘queen’, being served all sorts of delicacies, where I proceed to eat myself to stupor. The smell of hospital antiseptic jars me back to my senses.

“No, thank you sir. I have had lunch.” (Aunty long-throat whispers in my head ‘Liar! You have not!” but I ignore her voice.)

“Are you sure? They have**** and ***. Have you tasted****?”

(By this time I am shaking my head like MFM prayer warriors muttering in tongues to bind the devil)

“No, thanks again. Have a good meal. I have to see a patient. (Another lie!). Bye now.”

He never asked again even though he called me for many other reasons through the years. A few years back, I was married and living in Lagos at this time, he called me out of the blues. I greeted him heartily.

“Doc, I don’t know how to tell you this. I need a favour.”

“Shoot.”

“Well…it’s just that…I wish you were in town I would have come to see you to ask for advice.”

I wonder why he is stuttering. What could be making him so nervous?

“Why not tell me what the problem is; I could be able to help even though I am far away.”

“Is it not all these small small girls? They don’t know how to do the right thing.”

“Small girl? Is your daughter ill?

“No, not my daughter. It’s one small friend I have…(Big shot actually sounds sheepish). She said she did not see her period.”

I am tempted to sound obtuse and ask him to go to her house, take permission from her mother and help her find it but “Not today Satan! Stay professional Dr. N!)

“How old is she?”

“19”

“Haba! That is too young. An older girl might have known to use protection. Why didn’t you use protection?”

I can feel him squirming over the phone…even MTN can feel it. His money, cars, connections cannot protect him from the wrath of an Igbo woman.

“I used condom. She said…I don’t even know what she said…”

“Are you sure she is pregnant? Have you done a test?”

“She showed me the pregnancy test she did. It was positive. Doc, how do we flush it out? Is there any friend you have who can do it for me?”

“You know I don’t do such things!” I scolded.

He winced. “I know but maybe your friends?”

“I don’t have friends who do abortions. You know it is illegal. Why not keep the baby?”

“Ha! You know my status. I am an *** in church and she is a small girl.”

I thought for a while. There were 2 possibilities.

  1. She was pretending to be pregnant to con him out of money
  2. She was actually pregnant and if I didn’t intervene he would take her to a quack and she would end up with a septic abortion or even worse die.

“Go to the hospital, call one of the doctors aside and tell him you need to ask him something privately. If he is willing to get involved, tell him your predicament and he will make sure it is done right. But first, he should do another test to confirm she is actually pregnant. If you insist on going ahead, ensure it is done under the strictest of sanitary conditions, and keep an eye on her afterwards to prevent any complications.”

“Okay, doc. Thank you.”

“Sir…you need to choose your girlfriends carefully. 19 years is too young!”

He mumbles something unintelligible.

“And you need to use protection. Carry a condom around. You will protect yourself from scandal and protect Madam from catching something. These girls are not loyal.” I was speaking fast because I knew he had had an earful and would soon end the call.

“Thank you”

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I never heard from him again.

Now the moral of the story… Esau was so hungry that he sold his birthright for Jacob’s pottage. If I had gone out with this man, even if I didn’t have sex with him, I would not have the temerity to call him out.

We are in this world as a light to expose the deeds of darkness. Make your standards evident once people meet you and they will leave you alone.

There are men who cannot call out their friends who are beating their wives just because they are indebted to them. Stop borrowing money you cannot repay to impress people who do not care about you.

There are ladies who paid people to write their exams, now they can’t raise their heads when people who know you were an arts student wonder how you ended up an Engineer.

Stop laughing at crude jokes in order to be politically correct. Even if you are not bold enough to speak against things, stand up and walk out. Psalm 1 talks about how blessed is the one who does not sit in the seat of scorners and mockers. You believe…who knows?

Making your stand known also protects you from undue pressure. I remember my husband telling me how a colleague at work was about to invite him to hang out with him in a club when another colleague interrupted and said “Leave him O! He doesn’t drink or hang out.” One day when the ribbing got too much, I told him to accept their invitation if he felt like it. He was such a bore at their outing cause while they were getting wasted he was worrying about the work he brought home and wishing he had his laptop. Suffice it to say they never invited him out  again.

You have the power.

JUST BE!

Cheers, Dr.N

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If you would like to chat send me an email @ drnsmusings@yahoo.com or find me on twitter @nenabekee

Well Within My Rights

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I have often spoken of my experience working in a very busy hospital in the Niger Delta, where I was the only female doctor. My MD was a very intellectual man. He would drill us on every patient we were managing, during the morning rounds. If he felt you were giving less than your best, he would give you a tongue-lashing in the presence of patients, nurses, and all.

Now, as medical students, we were trained to accept such criticism humbly, and even thankfully. The belief is that the privilege of holding human life in your hands, does not come lightly. You should be thick-skinned enough to handle verbal abuse. Even when we qualify as doctors, our superiors still have the right to come down hard on us. I’m not sure how many other professions encourage this.

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One day, I was in the consulting room, when a young lady of 20-22 years was shown in. She was really pretty and shapely. Her complaints were, Mucoid and bloody dischage and vaginal bleeding. I later found out that she had post-coital and inter- mentrual bleeding. That means that she bled after intercourse, and in between her periods. I concluded that she had either cervicitis or early stage cervical cancer. Without alarming her, I asked her to go for some tests. Particularly, she was to do a pap’s smear. I also told her to abstain for a while and bring in her partners for tests.

The next day, I was summoned to the MD’s office. I was surprised to see her sitting there, looking worried.

“Come in, Dr. N”, he called when I opened the door. “Are you the one who sent this young lady for these tests?”

I took the sheet of paper he was extending to me.

“Yes sir” I replied.

“You sent her to the government-run laboratory? “, he smirked. “They are laughing at you!”

“Sir?”

“How can you send such a young girl for this test? Your diagnosis is wrong! See how you made a fool of yourself! “, he ranted.

“I don’t understand…..” I stammered.

“How can you not get your facts right? Leave my office! I just called you to tell you how you messed up”

Crest-fallen, I left. I was fuming inside all day. Why was I not allowed to defend myself? For whose benefit was this show? I had not given her any medication. How harmless could a non-invasive test be? I went home mad in my spirit. There was no way I was going to let him get away with it. I prayed and decided to confront him.

Though I didn’t want to be fired, I couldn’t take it any longer. I had worked with him for a year and proven myself. Letting him talk to me that way, would open the door for far worse. I didn’t want to blow up in front of his staff.The next morning, I was very calm as I knocked on his door. I had downloaded on my laptop, current information about her symptoms. That way, he wouldn’t say I relied on old textbooks. He let me in and smiled.

“Sir, I have something I want you to read”, I began.

“What is that?”, he asked.

“Just something I downloaded”

“Tell me what it is”

“It’s all about Cervical cancer, HPV, Cervicitis and more”

“Is it because of yesterday? Forget about it, now”,he cajoled.

“Sir, you traumatized me. I didn’t sleep or eat yesterday because I was so embarrassed”, I joked.

“O! Pity about that”, he evaded.

“You have to make it up to me. The only way I will be pacified is if you buy my lunch today”

He laughed. “Lunch? Is that all?”

“Yes”

He rang for his personal assistant and ordered her to buy me whatever I wanted for lunch. I left with a smirk. That was the only apology I was going to get but, he would think twice before calling me out again.

“Wetin you do wey oga dey buy food for you?”, his assistant asked.

I mean, it was unheard of that he would release a penny. I winked at her and held my tongue. Now, it has always been my ambition to have a great reputation where I work. I work hard, complain as little as possible, give extra, and try to be humble and courteous. This is particularly because, females tend to have a bad rap in the work place, as being obnoxious and lazy.

However, there comes a time, when you have to speak up for your rights. You can’t be a footmat. If you have established that you have a good work ethic and get along with others, you don’t have to be ashamed to say, “No, I won’t take that!”. Some people are just waiting for you to lose your temper. As a Christian, I advise that you delay responding till you are calm and have mapped out a strategy that is win-win for all involved.

For instance, I could have engaged him before the patient, told him off, and quit. He would lose face, I would lose my job, and the patient would lose confidence in both of us. By going back later to correct him in private, I gave him the chance to call her back and do the right thing, without feeling ashamed. Yes, she may doubt my capability in future but, that is a small price to pay, I think.

So, dear muses, you may be well within your rights but, choose your fights wisely. Till date, I am one of the few who have worked for him, that he speaks well off. Many bosses have the power to destroy your credibility when someone calls them for your referral.

On another note, if you are sexually active, you want to protect yourself from STDs. Particularly prone, are those with multiple partners. You might want to try abstinence or being faithful to your spouse. It may save your life.

Cheers, Dr. N.

Adire 31

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Justin and Magnus were checking out a house for rent. Justin and his family were considering moving and both friends used the opportunity to catch up. The agent showing them the house, Tuoyo, was an old acquaintance.

“Guy, na so them carry my matter reach pastor ear O! You can’t believe it”, Magnus was narrating.

“Seriously? Women are complex, man. I don’t know why God created them”, Justin scratched his head.

“Ehe, the world should have only been populated with guys. How would you have been born?”, Tuoyo scoffed.

“God would have come up with something. Better still, he should have made them act like us. I mean, sometimes they just drive you nuts”, Justin insisted.

“Look at Ijeoma, telling Pastor that I’m stingy, and inconsiderate. Can you imagine that?”, Magnus asked, stepping over some unused tiles.

“Be careful, guy, there are so many sharp objects on the floor”, Tuoyo warned.

“Women dream of controlling our money. I think they wish we would work and surrender our pay check to them, so they can squander it on fashion”, Justin laughed.

The three men laughed.

“My wife has no idea how much I earn, man. I don’t intend to tell her, too. Not my bank details, investments, or other financial information”, Justin continued.

“I give Ijeoma everything I can afford. Those I can’t, I expect her to pay for by herself. After all, what a man can do…….”, Magnus said.

“T, how much is the rent here”, Justin asked.

“N2.5 million”

“It’s just 2 bedrooms”, Justin remarked, opening the wardrobes in the master bedroom to inspect.

“The area is high brow”, Tuoyo defended.

“Guy, wetin you need pool, gym, and tennis court for? Let’s go and inspect houses within your budget”, Magnus suggested.

“What does Regina have to say about all this?”, Justin asked

“She’s strong, men. We’re in this together”, he replied.

“You, sha, na wa. I mean, I’ve had a few affairs but, I don’t get emotionally involved. The drama is just too much. At the end of the day, the devil you know is better”, Justin shrugged.

“My wife is not a devil O!”, Tuoyo said.

“See you. She hasn’t showed her true colours”, Magnus mocked.

“He’s a learner, now. Is it not 2 years ago that you got married?”, Justin asked, slapping his shoulder.

“I’m not a saint man but I don’t do that ‘ish'”,he shrugged, locking the door as they exited the flat.

“We have heard”, Justin scoffed.

They were making their way down the stairs to Tuoyo’s car. Since they rejected the flat, he was going to take them to another.

“My brother in law infected my only sister with HPV”, Tuoyo explained.

“What’s that?”, Magnus asked.

“Human papilloma virus. It’s sexually transmitted. She had been putting up with his unfaithfulness for years, never complaining. He used to bribe her with cars and other luxurious gifts whenever she caught him red handed”

“You see? No disrespect to your sis but, women can be fish brained sha”, Justin laughed.

“She died of Cervical cancer 4 years ago”, Tuoyo stated sadly.

They paused in the parking lot, suddenly sober.

“I’m sorry, man”, Magnus placed a hand on his shoulder.

“I’m sorry. That was low of me”, Justin apologized.

“That day I got the phone call, I wanted to skin her husband alive”, his eyes were misty with tears as he stared into space. “My mom reminded me of her 4 children, who needed at least 1 parent alive. It’s so painful that he is alive while my sister is dead”

“So sad”, Magnus shook his head.

“I swore never to cheat on my wife. No woman deserves to go through what my sister did. I don’t care if she’s a bitch or a shrew, I ain’t putting her through that”, he concluded.

Magnus and Justin were silent, deep in thought, while he began to pat his pockets for his keys.

Chapter 17

Ndidi was conversing with Ekene on phone.

“I realize you find it difficult to believe me but, I am truly sorry about everything”, Ekene pleaded.

“You know how much I was pained by my sister’s marital issues. I even asked you to pray with me. Yet, you and your friend were the thorn in our sides, all the while”, she accused.

“I tried to convince her to walk away. There’s nothing I didn’t do. At a time, I threatened to expose her”

“Ehe, and what was the result?”

“Please, let this not come between us. Even if we can’t be friends, let’s part on peaceful terms”

“I’m not sure I can forgive you, Ekene. You stabbed me in the back”

“What can I do to make it right?”

“Nothing. I only called to tell you how I feel. We are not friends, you hear me? You don’t know me. We don’t talk to each other!” Ndidi ended the call angrily.

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Magnus was summoned by the principal partners at his law firm. All week, there had been a review of the performance of all the solicitors in the firm. Subomi Olajide, Ikechi Echejile, and Layefa Spike, were seated around the conference table. Also present were their personal assistants, and Secretaries.

8 of the solicitors had been promoted to become partners over the years. This was the position Magnus had worked and prayed for for years. Though he had been promoted twice, he was still junior to at least 3 of those employed at the same time as he was. After the review, 1 person had been let go and 2 promoted. He desperately believed he would be among those promoted. Already, he had done a 3 day fast. He had also met Pastor Ekpiken to pray for him and sowed a seed by faith.

Ijeoma and he were undergoing the counselling sessions, weekly. Regina was also being counselled. He believed that with the promotion, he only had to complete the 3 months, then he could divorce Ijeoma and marry Regina. The pastors had informed them that after 3 months, if they were still adamant, they would release them to get a divorce. Presently, he and Ijeoma were co-tenants, not lovers. The children were couriers when he needed to pass a message to her. He noticed that they adjusted to the change, probably seeing it as a game. Besides, it was better than arguing before them. He knew they would love Regina. She was good with children and would be far more patient with them than Ijeoma who was fond of snapping at them for no reason.

“They’ll see you now”, the secretary announced.

He rose, buttoned his jacket and made for the conference room. Greeting each person with a handshake, he smiled confidently. Magnus knew he had this in the bag.

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Ekene and Fred were supposed to meet at his hospital cafeteria for lunch. It had been a hectic week for him and he asked her to meet him there. Rather than let the week go without seeing her, he pleaded with her to join him. They ordered a healthy meal. Rather than criticize Ekene who was overweight when they met, Fred adopted the method of ordering nutritious low calorie meals when they ate together. He went jogging with her every morning he could spare and they enrolled in the same gym.

By praising her appearance constantly, he gave her the courage to work towards her target weight. Whenever she complained that she was too fat, he would highlight her best features. If she compared herself to Regina who was slim, he would pretend to be angry, until she said something flattering about herself. He taught her to speak well of her body and be grateful. Soon, excercising and eating healthy became a norm for her, rather than a burden.

Her clothes became loose, her double chin disappeared, her arms toned, and her abdomen trimmer. She was far from skinny but she was glowing with good health. Even Regina and Miriam were in awe.

“Kene m, I missed you all week”, Fred said, as they dug into their meal.

“I missed you too”, she sighed.

“They’re riding me hard. I can’t wait to become a consultant. It’s getting too much”, he complained.

“After your exam next month….”

“Yes, O! I can’t wait”, he rubbed his hands eagerly.

“Neither can I. I need more time with my man”, she purred.

“Ke udi dangerous voice di ihe a?(What kind of dangerous voice is that? “, he joked. “You want to put me in trouble? ”

“No O!”, she protested in false innocence. “That’s how I talk normally”

“Biko, don’t set me up” “Ha ha ha”, she laughed.

Reaching for her hand across the table, he narrowed his eyes, “Sometimes, I get tired of waiting. I wish I could rush you to the courthouse and into my bed”

“Am I not worth the wait?”, she teased.

“Very much so, darling. Very much so”, he caressed the hand he was holding.

“My mom can’t stop planning how to speed up things. Since she met you, her question is, what is holding things up. In her words, “O gini ji nkita onwu?” Ekene said.

They both laughed.

“I told her we are to start marriage counselling soon and it will last 4 months. Only then can we set a date”, Ekene continued.

“She must have screamed”, he interjected.

“You know her well. ‘Do you know you are heading to 35?’, she screamed. Either she forgets my age, or she just likes to exaggerate”

“Moms! They worry so much! ”

“On a serious note, what if we have issues with fertility? “, she asked, suddenly sober.

“I’m a doctor, honey. We will cross that bridge when we get to it. If it requires IVF, surrogacy, adoption, whatever, we are in it together. You already know how my folks feel about you. Don’t worry about it”, he squeezed her hand.

“I love you so much”, she smiled.

“I love you too, babe. You’re my sunshine”, he blew her a kiss and she giggled.

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Ekene and Miriam had given account of their role in the matter the Pastors were handling. Pastor Ekpiken had called them for a second meeting, during which he and Adio advised them that they should have let the Director of Ushering know what was going on. They defended themselves that Regina initially gave the impression that it was a platonic relationship and they did not see it progressing to an affair. Having ascertained that they did not encourage their friend, they were let off the hook.

Miriam was therefore, very surprised, when she got a call from the church office, summoning her to Adio’s office. She arrived during her lunch break and was ushered into his office.

“Good day, Pastor Adio”, she greeted.

“Good day, Miriam. Thank you for coming”, he rose and gave her a hug.

She placed her bag on the floor and took the seat he offered her.

“I hope all is well? Pastor Ekpiken told me that we were off the hook”

“It’s not about Bro. Magnus and his wife”, Adio reassured her.

She let out a sigh of relief. It had been 2 months and she was honestly tired of the matter. She noticed that he was fidgety and anxious. Perhaps he needed a loan from her bank. She had had to arrange such for some of the pastors when they needed to finance major personal projects.

“I know this may come as a surprise to you” he began.

She smiled.

“I have not been able to get you off my mind since the last time we had a meeting with you”, he let out.

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TO BE CONTINUED.

Do leave your thoughts by clicking on the title. I know y’all noticed how long this post is? Lol. Cheers, Dr. N

My Own HIV Is Spiritual.

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One of the hospitals I often refer to, was located beside a brothel.In my sheltered upbringing, I had never set eyes on a prostitute. I was new in town, yet to move into my apartment, and still sleeping in the doctors’ call room. The 1st evening, I followed a colleague to be shown the sights. He promised to introduce me to his favourite delicacy, “Starch and Banga soup”, so I was excited. He failed to warn me of the commercial sex workers next door.

To my astonishment, standing by the road, were girls, scantily clad, chewing gum loudly, and making cat calls. I wondered why they were dressed like that in cold weather, he hurried on. Some were trying to tug at his clothes, making obscene remarks, batting their eyelids, blowing kisses, and gyrating their hips! It was appalling! I dared to ask the question on my mind when we got to the eatery and he laughed.

“That’s what we see here O! If I had not let you walk behind me, they would have attacked you”, he replied.

Those ladies became a normal part of my life in that town. One day, they even tried to grab me. Probably, they lacked patronage and decided to settle for skinny little me! I ran like Usain Bolt! They often presented with STDs, stab injuries from their fights and so on. They never had money to pay. Refuse to treat them at your own peril. They were fond of clustering at the fence when we had emergencies, shouting at us from there.

“Wicked people! Give him oxygen! These people like waiting for money! If you don’t treat that man, I’ll set this place ablaze!”

We had a relationship of mutual respect. Stay out of my business, I’ll stay out of yours!

One day, a girl came to my office. She was there for a follow up as a colleague had previously seen her and made a diagnosis. She was overweight,dark, swarthy, hardened, with tattoos all over her body. Whatever she was wearing was stretched to its limits and revealing. She kept tapping a foot nervously. I read in her folder that a pre-test HIV counselling had been done.

“Your HIV test is positive”, I informed her, after some preparation.

“What! It’s not my portion!”, she exclaimed. I was surprised but, she had more.

“Doc, what did you say?”

I repeated myself.

“No! It cannot be!”

My mouth hung open. The doctor who 1st saw her diagnosed the HIV based on her symptoms and sent her for a test. I wondered where she got her confidence from.

“What do you mean? Do you want to repeat the test?”, I asked carefully. (Remember that they turn violent easily).

“What I’m telling you is that it is not real. This thing is spiritual HIV!”

“Which one is spiritual HIV?”

“You will not understand! Give me that result. I will give it to my pastor and he will cancel it”

I was flabbergasted! Prostitutes have pastors too!

“This is not ordinary. They want to try me. I’m not moved. Give me the paper. This one is spiritual HIV. Drugs don’t affect it”, she went on.

I tried to get in a word about Antiretroviral drugs (ARVs), confirmatory tests, protection, etc. She was not interested. She just kept tapping her foot and muttering to herself.

“Doc, are you done?”, she asked finally. “I’ve told you this one is beyond you. Don’t worry. My pastor will cancel it and I will come back to show you the result”

With that, she stormed out. That was my 1st encounter with spiritual HIV and that was about 6 years ago. Note that there was so much advocacy,awareness and enlightenment going on. Some charlatans decided to fleece people by creating ‘Spiritual HIV’. What are the problems with it?

1.They will refuse to use protection. Since it is spiritual, they can go on to infect hapless people.

2. They will refuse to take ARVs. Though not curative, these drugs reduce the viral load, increasing your life span and your infectivity to others.

3. They will advice others not to seek medical help. If a friend wants to be tested or treated, they will say No, it is spiritual.

Can God heal HIV $ AIDS? Yes, I absolutely believe! A prerequisite for healing is that you have to admit you have a problem. Denial is not faith. Let’s not even talk about a pastor who encourages prostitution, I choose to doubt it.

I wrote this post because I heard a campaign on the radio advising people that HIV is not spiritual.That made me realise the battle is still on. We must debunk this idea so people do not continue to spread the disease believing they are healed. A genuine man of God will send you back to repeat the test. The fake one will tell you not to try it. You see, it is spiritual, you can’t trust the hospital. This is witchcraft!

Today, I need your voice. Join the fight. Let no one debase the name of our God. He is a healer! He is not afraid of lab tests. Jesus sent those he healed to the priests to verify their healing. Do not ignore anyone you hear claiming otherwise. Speak up. Why? So he or she does not spread the infection. Remember we cannot avoid them. They may sleep with the brother of a friend who then contacts it when sharing his or her brother’s razor (you trust your siblings, right?). No man is an Island.

Let us spread the truth, not the virus.

Why I use a Pseudo-name

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A number of people have wondered what my name is and why I don’t use it. I hope this answers the question. Apart from friends and family who are my biggest support base, I may keep my name secret for a while longer.

Years ago, a young man came in for a check up. He complained of burning sensation when urinating and other symptoms I can’t remember. I sent him for some tests and they confirmed that he had a sexually transmitted infection. I can’t remember exactly which one. He was wearing a wedding ring, so I slyly asked if he was married.

“Yes, I’m married”

“Does she have similar complaints as you do?”, I asked.

He said he had not told her of his symptoms, and believed her to be in perfect health.

“Is there a nice young lady on the side, who takes care of you?” I was looking away, as though theanswer did not matter.

“Well…..”

“The reason I am asking, is not to embarrass you. I have to trace your sexual contacts, so they can get treated. Not only is there the danger of them spreading this disease, you will be re-infected if you go back to them” After a long hesitation, he volunteered that he had a girlfriend.

Ethicallyy, I could have just asked him to go and advice his contacts to come for treatment but,the Spirit of God constrains me. I struggle to let such opportunities slip by me. Though I am nervous sometimes, I grit my teeth and say my mind.

“Sir, I don’t mean to be rude, but do you think your wife is unfaithful? ”

He replied that he doubted she was.

“That nice girl you are keeping outside, isn’t she more likely the source of this infection? ” By now, he was squirming. I knew he wished he could shut me up. Alas, he could not. “You probably believed her too ‘neat’ and ‘classy’ to require you using protection. Now, it is likely your innocent wife is infected. Who knows for how long or with what consequences”

“Doc, is it incurable, or what? Why are you talking like this?”

“It is curable, but you should know better. What do you need a mistress for?”

“You’re a woman. You won’t understand. Bodi no be firewood. Sometimes you need variety”

“Variety of diseases???”

I did not let him go till I had made my point. No woman (or man for that matter), owes you loyalty till you marry them. Men who expect mistresses to be faithful, are deluded. They will tell you you are a stud, great in the sack, handsomer than Denzel Washington! When you leave, they will yawn and shake their head at your flabby stomach, and puny biceps. Handsome, my foot!

The bible says that a man who commits adultery is foolish, like a man who pours gasoline on himself! Let me stop there. Are you wondering if he came back with his wife? Maybe in my absence, for I never saw him again. That dear muse, is why I keep my name secret for now. In these days of social media, I know it is easy to dig up information. Hopefully, people will not start avoiding me. Lol. By the time I have to use my name, I hope I would have inspired a crop of soldiers. They will go on to tell the truth even when it hurts.

The market place is populated by Christians who are hiding their light. The children of this world are flaunting their debauchery. What would Jesus do? Dear reader, in school, at work, wherever you find yourself, be ready to give a godly opinion. Cheers